When you think of Addiction, what do you envision?
Do you envision a drunk in a trench coat sleeping on a park bench,
Someone with a needle sticking out of there arm.
A person slumped down over a gambling machine.
Or a stock pile of new clothes/shoes laying UN-opened.
Perhaps someone gorging themselves on sugar/fatty Food or drinking copious bottles of Coke per day?
Smoking one or two packets of ’25s’ a day….
What are your ‘Thoughts’ & ‘Feelings’ that would accompany these visions?
Is this person ‘Useless,’ ‘Hopeless,’ ‘Helpless,’ ‘Worthless,’ ‘Sad,’ ‘A Waste of Space,’ ‘ A No Hoper!’
What advice would you give to this person? Would it be…Just get over it! You are wasting your Life!
You know some of the ‘Thoughts and the Words’ that can come to mind and even escape the lips can be pretty harsh, dark, judgemental & really critical.
Yet these are some of the very same words and ways that at some level, we are judging ourselves with.
You see, Addiction CAN be labeled by what you have read so far but it also goes way beyond this.
Addiction can be ‘Struggling’ silently or out loud, with the same repeated ‘Negative Thoughts, Emotions, Judgements, Activities, Relationships, Stress’s and Behaviors.’
That’s right – We can be addicted to Stress!
These addictive patterns are How and What we can invest time in and get stuck in ‘Every’ single day.
And here’s the thing:
Each and everyone of us has this addictive part in our Nature, in some way or another.
Nobody is void of these.
It is just the way you choose to react or respond that changes the outcome.
All Addictions are a symptom to the perceived hurts, the rejections, the fears, the abandonment, the betrayals, the lonesomeness, the shames, blames, guilt’s, angers, resentments, disappointments, the lack of connection, to what has past before and still lies unheard or unspoken ‘Underneath.’
So it is never about getting over it – It’s about getting under it!
‘Whatever’ the addiction, the struggle or the suffering is – Underneath it is a cry out to re-connect to who we Truly are at the core.
To accept ourselves UN-conditionally and to feel ‘Real Love.’
Healing any and All relationships starts within ‘You’ and ‘Me.’
So what ‘Relationship’ has been, or still is, Your Individual struggle in this lifetime?
For me, my struggles showed up in many of the above.
AND my real healing didn’t start until I learned how to turn my focus inward.
It’s true that looking at these ‘Unhealthy Relationships’ and going within can feel scary.
But it’s the only way….
What I found re-assuring was when my Teacher mentioned, “That there is ‘Nothing’ inside of you that you have not come through already.”
Real love starts with You.
You can just start with setting the Intention to ‘Trust,’
Trust in yourself, Trust in your journey, Trust that you are on the right path.
You may not be where you want ‘YET,’ but you WILL get there.
If you find that Trust is difficult for you to do, like I found at first, then just acknowledge this and choose to ‘Trust’ anyway:)
Pick a peaceful place for yourself. Your own sacred space. Sit quietly and ‘Be’ with yourself, close your eyes and have a conversation with your own Heart.
You can start with something small and simple like saying……
Even though I’m finding it hard to trust, I choose to find a way.
Even though I’m finding it hard to trust myself or anyone else, I choose to find a way to love and accept myself
Even though I’m finding it hard to trust, I am open to finding a way, because it is My Intention/wish/desire to ‘Heal all of my Relationships,’ starting with Me and even though I’m finding it hard to Trust, I CHOOSE to deeply and completely, Love, Honor and Accept, ‘Every’ part of Who I AM.
I hope you find this helpful and supports you in your journey forward.
Remember, It’s okay to start slow and take baby steps.
And I invite you to watch out for ‘ALL’ of the ways that the Universe/God/Love (whatever your beliefs are), appears ‘For’ you.
If you are curious or would love to have a little more support, please feel free to PM me on Facebook, or sign up for a confidential curious conversation. I would love to help you shed what is keeping you stuck from moving forward.
Wishing you the best in Health, Wealth & Happiness.
About Susan Whelan
Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.
Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help ‘You‘ Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Emotional & Financial Freedom’.