Jul 13

My Business Skills SUCKED!

business-collapseThursday is the day that I like to put aside time to work on and learn more about my Business.

It was NOT always like this!

In the past I used to fly by the seat of my pants, just do the work and wonder why my Business never done so well and in the last instance failed spectacularly. I needed HELP!

I never knew that I had to speak to my Business and tell it what I wanted from it, and what’s more I had to create my Business totally separate from me.

Sure I had heard that you are not your Business, yet I was a Personal Trainer and a Nutrition and Lifestyle Coach, so who else could my Business be, right.

My Business was there to support me or so I believed. I mean I looked at it like it was my only form of Euro CurrencyIncome and that was true to a large degree.

Yet, what I didn’t realize was that I couldn’t expect my business to prop me up time and time again, it wasn’t there for me to dip my hand into when I fell short in my personal world.

When I was able to get a clear picture of what type of Business I wanted to grow and how ‘Big’ that wanted to be. I could now give my Business clear instructions as to what I wanted and what I expected from it as well. (These things initially felt scary as hell to me).

I had to learn how to separate my ‘Personal’ and my ‘Business’ world completely!

This is a vitally ‘Important’ step.

I am so happy and grateful to say my business, ‘Feel Alive Inside’ now has a clear purpose, it has goals and it can now spread it’s wings and grow and expand far beyond what if could ever of done in the past.

‘Feel Alive Inside’ now gets to do what it is here to do and achieve, without my little hand continually causing a leak in it’s Financial Foundations.

Now I am dedicated to looking after my Business and my Business is dedicated to looking after me:)business build

Here is the coolest part, ‘Feel Alive Inside’ is able to do that now, all the while, providing me with a ‘Consistent Income, to powerfully accelerate me to ‘Personal Financial Freedom.’

How cool is that!

I never knew any of these things in the past,, it’s been one helluva ride I can tell you honestly.

My only driver was, I would do anything not to work at a normal J.O.B. (Just Over Broke) .

I wanted so much to work doing what I LOVED! Can you resonate?

I don’t want to leave this post without giving you the chance to learn more if you are also in this place so I want to share with you this link so you can check this out for yourself.

https://gi159.isrefer.com/go/MSMBOP/susanwhelan/

When I started and failed and started and failed again and again, I lost so much faith and confidence in myself, in fact I didn’t trust that I could ever succeed I had failed so much.

Yet something greater kept pulling me forward and that was always to help others in similar situations and always in a much bigger way, but first off, I had to help myself. I have done that and It is part of my ‘Mission’ to continue to do so.

I had put my intention out there in one of my deepest darkest times, to learn about Personal Finances and to learn about Business, because I believed I SUCKED at it back then!

But the truth was I had never learned it in the past.

All I knew was what I deeply truly wanted and I didn’t want to learn from just anyone, I wanted to learn from the Best.

I believe that my wishes were granted that day as I didn’t have long to wait when Tony Pennells of Mindshift.Money’s first book crossed my palms.  https://gi159.isrefer.com/go/FFBookCC/susanwhelan

A common sense no BS approach, that I can quite honestly say after following his principles have turned my whole world around. I have learned so much and within a very short time frame I might add.

I would love to share with you now, how you too can Build your Business to be the best that it can be while accelerating ‘You’ to ‘Personal Financial Freedom’ so you can do more of what you love to do.

It makes so much sense!

But please don’t just take my word, check this cost effective way out for yourself. You can work through all of the simple step by step modules to build your very successful business too and you can do it in your own time just like I have. https://gi159.isrefer.com/go/MSMBOP/susanwhelan/

I know you won’t be disappointed. It’s time to give your dreams Wings’ of their own.

AND don’t forget to stick with it, until you learn ‘Everything’ that you need to know too.

Wishing you the best of Health, Wealth & Happiness.


About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Emotional & Financial Freedom’.

Jul 04

Comparisons Leave You feeling Bad

When it comes to Finances/Money and getting what you want – In most cases people are putting their safety and security and their ‘Future’ self at risk.

This is driven at large by the comparison TRAP and a lack of Financial Literacy!

Keeping up with appearances and wanting to feel good – This is of course a game we play to lose.

Take a little peak into your own ways of ‘Spending.’

Are you spending money in your head before it even hits your bank account?

 

 

Planning before you get paid what you are going to buy next.

Scouring the pages of the magazines and the junk mail at all the next shiny objects.

Looking to own the biggest house in the best location, the best car, the fancy boat, the full fancy attire, the shoes, the labels, the fastest motorbike.

I know I used to want all of those things too and yet I lived with so much frustration because I never seemed to keep up with everything that I wanted.

AND my money somehow was never able to stretch. There was ‘NEVER’ enough!

This is a game that can look rich on the outside yet under the bonnet tells a different story.

I’m not saying comparison in itself is a bad thing, if used positively it can inspire us to reach greater heights of success and happiness.

But where it most often belongs, is in the ‘Scarcity’ mindset.

Be ‘Aware’ of the comparison trap!

We want what we believe others have more of, or we are frightened of being judged for what we don’t have.

This is a trap that has ‘Money’ managing You and only ever leaves you feeling ‘Bad.’

Choose a healthier way!

Learn how to manage your finances like the 4% and give your money the task of working for you. Learn all you can to become ‘Financially Fit and Literate,’ this will change your world completely.

Imagine what it would feel like to Pay Yourself First, before anyone else, before the Butcher, the Baker and the Candlestick Maker, before you paid your Mortgage, before you paid your rent. Before you even put food on your table or clothes on your back.

That means no more worrying about debt increasing. No more stress over unexpected bills.

No more Financial turmoil – Can you Imagine what that would feel like.

Let me re-assure you, that this is possible for you, just like it was for me.

Did you know if you choose to, you can learn how to manage your money in as little as 30 days.

This is true – That’s how I changed my money story around.

It does takes some action however and it does take some determination, because chances are you like I was, have been operating in your Money the same way for a very long time.

But if you really want this for yourself, you can do this too. It is easier than you may think.

Today from this blog post I wanted to show you the exact way that I did this.

I joined up to the Financially Fit Bootcamp at Mindshift.Money and worked through the proven four steps and structural process in easy to follow video modules and they literally cured money stress in my life for good.

I know this sounds too good to be true – So please don’t just take my word for it,  go into it, have a look around and make up your own mind, by what you ‘Feel.’

I was so ready to make this change, I was so sick and tired of living from week to week, never feeling safe and secure with money. I had been putting it out into the Universe and doing all of the emotional work, so when this came to me needless to say, in my way I jumped in boots and all. I have ‘NEVER’ regretted that.

Safety-Net

Within a very short time and for an incredible price, I was ‘Financially Fit.’ I was ‘Paying Myself First,’ Protecting myself, while building my ‘Safety net’ and ‘Terminating my Debt,’ faster than I ever imagined possible.

AND… Setting aside money so ‘Money’ could start working for me. #incrediblevalue

So are you too ready to get money stress out of your life ‘Forever’, can I show you how you can do this too?

You can check it out here: https://gi159.isrefer.com/go/MSMFFP/susanwhelan/

Now just in case your are wondering, there are NO obligations if you too decide to join up, You will not get sucked into something that you do not want to be apart of, there are no catchy dodgie sales intents where you sign up and you pay for something and you cannot get your money back.

This is not a super get rich quick scheme, it is how to become ‘Financially Fit’ within a time frame that you get to decide. 30 days or 3 years!

This is where YOU get to decide what you want, you get to make your own choices of whether or not you want to live with ‘Financial Fitness’ while making your way to ‘Financial Freedom.’

There are however, pure heartfelt intentions to help, support, create a shift and change what literally ‘Millions’ of people believe about ‘Finances’ around the Globe today, that ‘Causes’ them to suffer with the insidious ‘Effects’ of ‘Money Stress’ in their own lives and those of their families.

Living life like that ‘SUCKS’ and what’s more it is ‘AVOIDABLE.

I realize that not everyone likes to do things Bootcamp style, or go through on their own. Some people love the presence of others that are on the same journey, while some like to have the hand of a Coach, to hold them accountable to their goals.’ I want you to know I have your Back.

If you have any questions at all, or your would like some clarity around your own personal story. If you want to know more about the Bootcamp process and the supportive community. Reach out your hand and find another that has been where you have.

reach out

You can do that by reaching me on this website. Or by emailing me personally at info@feelaliveinside.com

You Matter!

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About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Emotional & Financial Freedom’.

Jun 29

Money Tears Your World Apart

‘Money’ stress doesn’t only break up marriages – It tears apart families!

It torments your life. Over & Over again and fills your life with anxiety, fear, sickness, lack and worry.

You never get to feel really safe and looked after.

And I just want to add here – How you do ‘Money’ today is NOT your fault.

‘Money’ stress is passed down from generation to generation, it is taught as a child and ‘You’ have attracted your ‘Money’ story today to match.

Sounds crazy I know, yet I am sure you have heard of the saying, “The Apple never falls Far from the Tree,” that is so true in many cases.

Yet, it only needs to be true until ‘You’ make a decision to change that.

When you make the decision to manage your ‘Money,’ it no longer has ‘Control’ over you.

I know it can feel scary, because chances are you have been operating this way in your money for along time now.

And chances are – You have more than likely been pretty hard on yourself along the way!

I can speak from experience, because this was my personal money story too – Not anymore!

Recently I have had the pleasure of working with some very cool awesome as women and this question has come up out of that meeting so I wanted to share with you how I myself overcome this in the past, in the desire that it may help you if you struggle with it to.

Question:

“How do you know who to trust when there are so many people out there pushing sales. How do you know which one is real and not only that, where do I start?”

My answer to that is always:

First you must find ‘Trust’ in yourself!

When self-doubt rears it’s head and it will, you just CHOOSE to ‘Trust’ and ‘Believe’ without a doubt you are on the correct path for whatever your learning is right now.

This is an important practice – Trust!

So let’s use Money as an example here, (which is no different from any relationship I might add).

When entering into any new relationship there is a learning or re-learning phase. I say this because, either you have ‘Never’ learned the skills for your desired outcome, or you have had ‘Plenty’ of practice and it has always ended in a way that you don’t want to repeat.

Some of us have Ph.d’s in this kind of practice – I know I have in the past.

So from the beginning you have the desire to learn something new, or something that you desire to change, an old pattern or habit that isn’t serving you anymore. (This is the Intention).

You have already started with being ‘willing’ and now you follow it up with determination and taking action.

Perhaps this can be by reading, asking questions of people that you do trust to get their take on things.

You might search the Web, attend seminars, listen to webinars, or choose a Coach who has been there too.

Yet ultimately when it comes to choosing who you follow, who you want to work with, you must initiate ‘Trust’ in yourself first and go with how YOU ‘Feel.’

So when it comes to learning the skills of how to manage your Money it is just like learning any new skill, accept with Money there is a twist.

What many people do not realize is, when it comes to ‘Money’ there is a Mind/Body/Money connection, and because of that, there is an UN-learning or a DIS-mantling of what stops you from having more now.

That is to say, not many of us actually had the privilege of learning about ‘Money’ from a healthy informed perspective, as we grew up.

We learned about ‘Money’ by absorbing the emotions present in our family environments whenever ‘Money’ was addressed of discussed, and now our own money stories are a reflection of those very same emotions that we felt.

If you are new to this concept you may need to go back and read this a few more times and allow the information to penetrate a little deeper so you can gain some clarity to my words.

From most accounts we all come from normal middle class families and the stories that were reflected to us in childhood around ‘Money’ from our parents or caregivers, were more often than not, based in lack.

So….Where do you start when you want to change that…

Short answer – Start ‘Inside’ yourself with Trust!

Set your Intention of what you want to cure, heal, or change. And look for your ‘Why.’ Why this is so important to you.

Be willing and determined to make the shifts – You will be challenged by old paradigms, (triggers) or fears. This is just a case of Murphy’s Law – When you want to change anything, you get a curve ball or two thrown up just as a way to test it seems – Do it anyway!

Take the steps of change.

Trust and allow yourself to be guided by your own deepest wisdom.

Acknowledge and recognize within your own heart that you have fear and self doubt, this is important, then speak to your own heart.

Tell your Heart you are ready to step more into ‘You’ everyday.

Now Trust that the right person, idea, event or circumstance for you, will show up at exactly the right time. But don’t sit idly by and wait. Be open, start looking and becoming aware of your thoughts, your feelings and keep reminding yourself of the above.

Look for someone who lives an authentic life in your Minds eye, based on the principles that you want to learn, attain, be apart of and share.Look for someone most importantly, that you feel resonates with you.Look for that special someone that you feel safe with. That will not criticize or judge you when you feel like you have made a mistake. You build your trust in Yourself and in this person as a result.

You look around for someone who walks their talk, who has gone there before you. You watch and listen, connect and feel. You ask the questions if you need to. Do the groundwork until you build up to ‘Like,’ ‘Know’ and ‘Trust’ what they have to offer you.

Tell yourself (your Heart) you know what you are doing, remind yourself ‘Why’ you are doing what you are doing, then make your decision based on how you ‘Feel’ not on how you ‘Fear.’

Where ‘Money’ is concerned there can be massive amounts of self criticism, shame, anger, sadness, frustration and judgement. but that’s okay. You recognize it and you go learn how to manage your money anyway.

Managing Money is not hard to learn. In fact it is easier than you can imagine. It is only Fear and self doubt that stops you, but on the other side of self-doubt is trust.

My Mentor Tony Pennells of Mindshift.money says, “To conquer Fear, take Massive action,”  I can vouch that his recommendations work.

Once you have found your Teacher/Mentor, Implement their steps and the structures, don’t try to adjust. Trust that they have done the hard yards for you and all you need to do is apply them as they have been given to you, feel into them, adopt them into your own life as your own and keep practicing, keep fine tuning, and Voila!

You can be managing your money like the 4%, financially fit and on your road to ”Financial Freedom all in the space of 30 days.

Not only will you have learned #valuable new skills, you will have learned to ‘Trust’ in your judgements, #priceless, healed an unhealthy relationship in your life and put a ‘Stop’ to money stress in you and your families life, ‘Forever.’ #thisequalsgold

I know what this feels like first hand – I’ve been there, I lived it and conquered it and it feels so empowering on the other side and what’s more you can feel this way too!

Let Fear guide you, when it is flowing freely it ‘IS’ you intuition.

Trust yourself to put a stop to what no longer serves this newer version of you. You are ‘NEVER’ too old, to dumb or stupid, not good enough, smart enough, blah blah, to learn.

So take initiative and make the choice to learn how to manage your money, so you get to feel the freedom of ‘Paying Yourself First!’

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About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Emotional & Financial Freedom’.

Jun 27

Let Money Guide You

 

 

Life can feel like such a struggle for some, while for others it appears to be such a breeze.

Yet life is ‘ALL’ depending on your perceptions, thoughts, judgements & beliefs.

How you do one thing in life is how you will do ‘Everything.’

Today I am going to draw on ‘One’ of my very favorite guiding/teaching tools – Money!

And I invite You to let your relationship with #money be your guide too.

 

 

So how do ‘You’ view your money story?

Do you feel free and abundant with it, without a care in world?

Does it feel like it flows easily to you, or it is more like a runaway train stuck on full throttle running the opposite way.

The sooner you get it, it leaves again?

Has it been this way all of your life?

Or has there been a time that you can remember saying, “Ever since that time, Money or my Income has never been the same?”

Allow yourself to really Feel into these questions.

Feel what it feels like in your body if these questions resonate with you.

So what is your relationship with ‘Money’ like?

Does money make you feel a certain way – Angry, Resentful, Disappointed, Stuck, Worried, Sick, Sad, Embarrassed, Dis-empowered, Intimidated, Uncomfortable, Ashamed?

Does it make you feel like you are ‘Never good enough,’ you are a ‘Failure,’ ‘Not smart enough?’

Do you feel like ‘Money’ is for everyone else and not for you? Like there is ‘Never’ enough.

How does this make you ‘Feel’ – Sad and Pissed off right!

Do you feel like you are stuck on the hamster wheel having to ‘Strive and Strive’ and no matter what you do, Money just never arrives?

Do you Feel betrayed by ‘Money,’ does it Feel Taboo!

Are you afraid to ask for ‘Money’ with the work that you do?

Perhaps you don’t even feel comfortable having the conversation, saying the word – Money!

For me – The ‘Power I had given to Money’ was enough to make me feel physically SICK to my stomach!

It felt like I had battled and worried over ‘Money’ for as long as I could remember.

I desperately wanted to make money, yet it seemed that money had other plans for me.

Money for Me was entangled in Love.

A toxic love relationship full of fear and misunderstanding.

I had to learn that Money was just Money and Love was Love.

I seen Money as “everything’ but.

I seen it as the reason, the culprit of my Family fights and woes.

I seen it as the reason behind why my Brother had to die. It was the reason why my beloved Sister and I could never get along.

It stands to reason why unconsciously anytime I received ‘Money’ or ‘Money’ was the subject, I would come up in resistance and want to put distance between Me and It…

I was ANGRY with Money, or so I thought.

I had a Love/Hate relationship with ‘Money’ and a lot to learn.

Yet here’s what I learned.

Money is just Money! It is a form of appreciation.

I wasn’t about the money at all, it was about Me.

It was how I seen my own value in the World. It was about learning how to love myself.

I had a love/hate relationship with Myself going on and ironically, it was ‘Money’ that showed me how to heal this. #priceless #magic

So if ‘Money’ has always been a concern in your life – A Fear.

I invite you now to look at it in a different way.

Allow it to show you all of the ways your emotions have become stuck and are now controlling you.

Let Money show you where and how you have lost trust, faith and belief in yourself, in who you truly are, in your true value and abilities.

In what You are here for.

‘Money’ has the knack of showing you really quickly all of your discomforts and beliefs…

For eg:

Have you ever handed over your credit card or debit card and had it declined? Allow yourself now to think of that instance right now and ‘Feel’ how quickly the embarrassment or shame shows up:)

That old embarrassment and shame will accompany you often even now – In fact every time you are in a similar situation where you are called to pay with your card again, you will feel this discomfort and fear rise up.

I remember what that was like – Yep it happened to me too!

But I am happy to report, NOT anymore.

Today I am so grateful to ‘Money’ and all the ways it teaches me. All the ways it shows up.

We as Human Beings find multitudes of ways to give our power away – Money is just ‘One’ of them!

So Is ‘Money’ the bain in your life?

How would you ‘Feel’ to take back all of that power?

To cure ‘Money’ stress in your life forever. You truly can do this, you can turn your money story around.

You can call out the B.S and see it for what it truly is. B.S!

You can start small by taking baby steps.

Just by becoming aware and acknowledging that your emotions are not your enemies, they are your friends.

They are always guiding you on where and how to let go and heal.

For such a long time I never wanted to Feel anything it was too much to bare, so I did my best to obliterate them, drown them, drug them, escape them, run from them, in anyway that I could.

But here’s the thing…

Your emotions and feelings just kept showing up and they can get so loud and so uncomfortable, they want to be acknowledged and heard.

Ignoring them and pushing them away can end up as physical pain, symptoms, illness and dis-ease.

Everything turned around for me the day I accepted that I was not just a Physical Be-ing. I was an EMOTIONAL Be-ing too. Plus plus:)

I had been rejecting this big beautiful part of me for so long and beating myself up in the process – And I bet if you are still reading this post that you too know how that Feels, don’t you?

So I invite you, to show yourself some compassion and more importantly, to invite those emotions in and thank them for showing up, get quiet with them, feel them, question them, learn everything you can from them.

This does not mean that you have to set up camp with them all. Acknowledge what you have come through, where you have been. Acknowledge the struggles in your life when you felt you didn’t matter.

Acknowledge where you have given away your power and taken on the role of victim. Acknowledge where you made it about everyone else before yourself and gave and gave until there was nothing left.

Acknowledge that this is your time now and commit to being with yourself.

You are the most important person in your life – You cannot give from an ‘Empty’ cup.

When you start acknowledging yourself in this way – Money is a form of energy, of appreciation, it will start to show up.

Money calls for a healthy relationship, it calls for structure and order. It calls for appreciation, starting with ‘YOURSELF!’

You may find through this practice where have you been believing something that is no longer in integrity with who you are, or how you want to show up in the world now.

Build your dreams on Who you are now, not on your past of ‘Limitation.’

Feel what it is like to Expand through your Limitation, see yourself as ‘Worthy and Deserving’ of great love.

You were born that way – It is your birthright!

If you have picked ‘Money’ in this lifetime to be a guide, then I invite you to stop what you are doing, get quiet with yourself and learn.

Your Happiness Value and Worth depend on it!

Love all of you today.

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About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions and Stress around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Emotional & Financial Freedom’.

 

Jun 01

How we ‘In-DEBT’ Ourselves – A personal story

 

 

 

When it comes to ‘DEBT’ you can find yourself experiencing some really dark negative thoughts that run over and over again in your mind – Like a broken record player stuck on repeat!

They can feel all consuming and no matter what you do, you can’t see a way out – It’s like torture of the meanest kind.

 

 

Constantly running with the thoughts of how do I bring more money in – when you have no extra time! ‘There’s NEVER enough!

AND the dark feelings and emotions that accompany those – I’m Useless, I’m a failure, I’m not smart enough, I’m not good enough, I’m not educated enough, thin enough, lovable, I can never feel Safe, this mean I’m …..(Fill in the Blank),

blah blah blah, you get my drift.

‘DEBT’ can bring with it some of the darkest most shameful feelings and thought patterns that unconsciously we are saying to ourselves many times a day.

Not a positive vibration is it:)

However ,as human beings we only want to feel good so we are always trying to move away from pain into pleasure.

Even if that is momentarily.

So what do YOU do to move away from your painful thoughts?

For Me in the past, ‘One’ of my many anesthetizes was wine in a wine glass and then going out to get More!!!

It was a never ending cycle of Money, Party, Loss and Pain.

Followed closely by feelings of Anger, Guilt, Sadness, Frustration, Disappointment and Shame,

Then the Withdrawal, Criticism and Self blame.

In fact I called myself every horrible name –

I so wanted to be Financially independent and Secure, yet I felt like I kept hitting this Invisible wall.

Like one of my many wise teachers said, “Like taking yourself to the end of the Bulls horn.”

AND …

Further more I had ‘NO’ idea that the reasons of why I was spending and cycling the way I was, all had their roots in the past.

Thats right, …

From all accounts, I was only moving away from the uncomfortable painful emotions that unconsciously seemed way to ‘BIG’ for me to handle on my own.

I kept those emotions well fed, that is, until I picked up the courage to look within.

I fed my debts of anger, betrayal and yes (hatred), with ‘Alcohol and Spending,’ I fed my grief, my despair, my loss, with ‘Pretend love and Spending.’

I fed my guilt and shame with ‘Sugar and Spending’, I escaped my reality with ‘Drugs’

and it ALL showed up in my bank accounts.

It showed as a ‘BIG’ vacuumous hole in my Savings account and a pile of unopened DEBT.

It showed up as Electricity companies cutting off my power supply, Losing my Home, a Business and Banks shutting down on my ‘Money.’

‘Money’ showed me I was out of control, it showed me how to connect…It showed me how terrified, empty, vulnerable and un-safe I felt.

I thought it was me just being ‘USELESS’ with money, but it was so much more than that.

You see I had given birth to a precious little boy at just 15 and gave him up for adoption and with that my heart and my soul and my own sense of worthy and deserving.

I had a void so big in Me – No-thing could fill it.

The pain, the despair, betrayal and the loss was like a festering wound that no matter how hard I tried it refused to be covered up

I tell you this today, not for you to feel sorry for me, but to invite you to a new level of understanding.

These can be the very reasons why you too maybe struggling with Debt, with little Savings, with Self Doubt, Mis-trust , owing Money and Empty accounts.

You too have your own individual story none of us is left UN-touched.

I share this with you today because these emotions and trauma’s can be keeping your money where it is.

Stopping you for ever getting ahead of ever feeling like you can be Free.

The GOOD news is You CAN be free of this.

Some people can get help in the practical sense and find ways to get money working for them (this is Important too).

Yet others will know that their is ‘MORE’ to their money story in the emotional sense and know they have to go their first.

The day I decided to become a ‘Money and Mindset Coach,’ was the best and the scariest day ever, but when I learned that it wasn’t my fault and I understood and learned the reasons ‘WHY’ money never showed up for me, I was blown away.

I had been sooo hard on myself….Can you resonate?

We can have some pretty crappy stories attached to our Money and Money for me was more like a ‘Monster than a friend.

It was like I had always wanted it, but no matter what I did or tried to do it didn’t seem to want to stick around.

These feelings had been their first.

These stories are individual and can show up in many different ways like a death of a loved one, a betrayal of yourself or someone that you love, a loss in Income through misadventure, health issues, trusting someone and being ripped off.

You could have had something stolen from you or lost money and been scolded as a child. You could of been taken to the cleaners in a divorce settlement or made a poor decision about an investment or business.

A bankruptcy or Liquidation ,an Adoption procedure like mine, it is super important to honor these as try putting yourself out into the world allowing all of your brilliance to shine when you have a festering wound inside.

So today, I just invite you to give yourself some sacred space to honor that emotional weight that you have been carting around.

Because chances are You have NEVER honored this in the past and no body else has either. No body really gets what you went through back then and those memories are just as clear for you today as what they were back at that time.

I just want YOU to know – I get it!

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About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Emotional & Financial Freedom’.

May 24

Stress is Addictive

 

When you think of Addiction, what do you envision?

Do you envision a drunk in a trench coat sleeping on a park bench,

Someone with a needle sticking out of there arm.

A person slumped down over a gambling machine.

Or a stock pile of new clothes/shoes laying UN-opened.

Perhaps someone gorging themselves on sugar/fatty Food or drinking copious bottles of Coke per day?

Smoking one or two packets of ’25s’ a day….

 

 

What are your ‘Thoughts’ & ‘Feelings’ that would accompany these visions?

Is this person ‘Useless,’ ‘Hopeless,’ ‘Helpless,’ ‘Worthless,’ ‘Sad,’ ‘A Waste of Space,’ ‘ A No Hoper!’

What advice would you give to this person? Would it be…Just get over it! You are wasting your Life!

You know some of the ‘Thoughts and the Words’ that can come to mind and even escape the lips can be pretty harsh, dark, judgemental & really critical.

Yet these are some of the very same words and ways that at some level, we are judging ourselves with.
You see, Addiction CAN be labeled by what you have read so far but it also goes way beyond this.

Addiction can be ‘Struggling’ silently or out loud, with the same repeated ‘Negative Thoughts, Emotions, Judgements, Activities, Relationships, Stress’s and Behaviors.’

That’s right – We can be addicted to Stress!

These addictive patterns are How and What we can invest time in and get stuck in ‘Every’ single day.

And here’s the thing:

Each and everyone of us has this addictive part in our Nature, in some way or another.

Nobody is void of these.

It is just the way you choose to react or respond that changes the outcome.

All Addictions are a symptom to the perceived hurts, the rejections, the fears, the abandonment, the betrayals, the lonesomeness, the shames, blames, guilt’s, angers, resentments, disappointments, the lack of connection, to what has past before and still lies unheard or unspoken ‘Underneath.’

So it is never about getting over it – It’s about getting under it!

‘Whatever’ the addiction, the struggle or the suffering is – Underneath it is a cry out to re-connect to who we Truly are at the core.

To accept ourselves UN-conditionally and to feel ‘Real Love.’

Healing any and All relationships starts within ‘You’ and ‘Me.’

So what ‘Relationship’ has been, or still is, Your Individual struggle in this lifetime?

For me, my struggles showed up in many of the above.

AND my real healing didn’t start until I learned how to turn my focus inward.

It’s true that looking at these ‘Unhealthy Relationships’ and going within can feel scary.

But it’s the only way….

What I found re-assuring was when my Teacher mentioned, “That there is ‘Nothing’ inside of you that you have not come through already.”

Real love starts with You.

You can just start with setting the Intention to ‘Trust,’

Trust in yourself, Trust in your journey, Trust that you are on the right path.

 

You may not be where you want ‘YET,’ but you WILL get there.

If you find that Trust is difficult for you to do, like I found at first, then just acknowledge this and choose to ‘Trust’ anyway:)

Pick a peaceful place for yourself. Your own sacred space. Sit quietly and ‘Be’ with yourself, close your eyes and have a conversation with your own Heart.

 

You can start with something  small and simple like saying……

Even though I’m finding it hard to trust, I choose to find a way.

Even though I’m finding it hard to trust myself or anyone else, I choose to find a way to love and accept myself

Even though I’m finding it hard to trust, I am open to finding a way, because it is My Intention/wish/desire to ‘Heal all of my Relationships,’ starting with Me and even though I’m finding it hard to Trust, I CHOOSE to deeply and completely, Love, Honor and Accept, ‘Every’ part of Who I AM.

I hope you find this helpful and supports you in your journey forward.

Remember, It’s okay to start slow and take baby steps.

And I invite you to watch out for ‘ALL’ of the ways that the Universe/God/Love (whatever your beliefs are), appears ‘For’ you.

If you are curious or would love to have a little more support, please feel free to PM me on Facebook, or sign up for a confidential curious conversation. I would love to help you shed what is keeping you stuck from moving forward.

Wishing you the best in Health, Wealth & Happiness.

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About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Emotional & Financial Freedom’.

May 08

Toxic Money Pattern – Do You Have One

When it comes to writing my  blog posts I normally allow what is presenting itself to guide me, either through my client struggles at the time, what my family members are dealing with, or where and what is coming up in my own personal money adventure.

So this weeks post is timely and is all about one of the five money categories.

This does not always present in everyone’s life but the topic for this post is ‘Toxic Money’!

When it comes to healing and opening up space for money to flow into your life if you have your own toxic money cycle going on, it can be particularly devastating when you want to bring in an income and when it comes to dealing with toxic money, it is a whole different beast than the other four money categories.

So…

 

Have YOU ever experienced the frustrating cycle now or in the past, of always running out of money and having someone else (perhaps a family member), having to continually bail you out?

This pattern can feel very embarrassing and dis-empowering and you can end up feeling really disappointed and angry at yourself every time it happens….

 

AND not only that..

Even though you really hate being in that position, you NEED that money to get by on and you can see no other way out.

This is just one of the example’s of the Toxic Money cycle and how it plays out.

Below you will get to see a few more.

A toxic money cycle can be a situation in which you are owed money – maybe from an accident, inheritance, a marriage break up, an employer/employee, or child support – and money is being withheld in battle or anger.

It’s conditional, or given with resentment – But you REALLY need and want that money.

This is when money and YOU, becomes caught up in a Toxic cycle and pattern.

A particularly common Toxic cycle plays out in unhealthy husband/wife/partner realms and it happens when they are living in a situation where they are continuously being given money and they REALLY need it.

They are relying on this money to support and take care of themselves and in many cases their children, yet the money they are receiving is at a high price.

In these scenario’s the recipient often feels plagued by discomfort and intimidation, with overwhelming thoughts of resentment, anger, hatred and loathing.

This anger and loathing can be turned towards another or turned inwards towards themselves.

I know in my particular case this was so.

Self worth and personal value can be so negatively impacted, as overtime these unhealthy emotional states build, making the situation very dysfunctional and toxic-ally charged.

It is common to feel very stuck in these unhealthy dysfunctional relationship/situations (some of which have been going on for a long time), where they believe they are needing the money to get by on, yet at the same time the cost to the individual far exceeds any money that they get.

This type of situation is not only limited to husband/wife/partners, it can also show up with adults who are still needing to turn to their parents for financial assistance.

With these particular toxic cycles it can feel like money is ALWAYS being with-held from you and you ‘NEVER’ get enough.

Or..

Like you are locked into this constant horrible battle around money and that you always feel like you have to prove yourself to someone, how much you NEED the money.

Toxic money usually requires digging in and looking at in a deeper way, as while the other four money categories can be dismantled and freed up by looking in to the common blocks around them, toxic money come from a place of being more wounded because it has the person trapped in what can only be described as a state of victim-hood, loss of power and dis-empowerment.

Money is locked up in this constant battle state with all of the uncomfortable unhealthy emotions around it.

When money presents in this way in your life, it is like the Qi flow (life-force energy) in your own body is blocked and not matter what you seem to do it never runs freely.

And in fact this is the truth, until you clear it.

You may be reading this and thinking to yourself, ‘Holy Hell’ that sounds like me, or (someone that you love).

You maybe recognizing this very Toxic pattern and if you are, I invite you just to stop and take a nice deep breath and honor yourself in this story because coming to this realization and uncovering a Toxic cycle or pattern, because coming to this realization and uncovering a Toxic cycle or pattern, is a big deal.

 

 

Now a common denominator as Margaret. M. Lynch, (Author of Tapping Into Wealth) says, of people who have toxic money in their life,

You will often hear them saying, “Ever since this (fill in the space) started, I have never been able to earn again.

“It may of been or seemed like there has always been this long extended time of seemingly inability to earn.”

Toxic money can be very frustrating and heart wrenching when living in this situation, but from a coaching perspective, this is one of the money issues that takes a little more digging as it is frequently more around relationship dysfunctions and betrayals, that specifically one of money.

You WILL know if this is, or has been playing out in your life, because although you really NEED this money to get buy on, it forever leaves you feeling like you are always beholding to someone else.

It is this icky disgusting feeling around this person/situation of being under their thumb and that continually leaves you feeling less than you would like to feel.

But the good NEWS – This too can be cleared.

Clearing toxic money can be HUGELY transforming because not only do you clean up and clear out a whole bunch of anger, blame, sadness, hurt and loss, you get to free up the space where you can create the kind of income that you not only deserve but the kind of Income you would love.

On the other side of ‘Toxic Battle’ is a beautiful place of freedom and peace, of clarity, self worth, empowerment and self love.freedom

Where to start:

#1   The first step is by being aware that this is playing out in your life. Stop and honor that in yourself.

#2    Shine the light of your consciousness on this part or time in your life and look into the unhealthy   dysfunctional relationships that are present now, or have been through out your life.

#3    Follow those back to see where they started from, have a look at what was going on in your life at that time and acknowledge all of the emotions around that particular event that you are still holding onto to this day.

If this feels extremely uncomfortable for you and you feel like you would love a hand rather than going there alone, please feel free to request a 30 minute confidential curious conversation.

It is my passion to help women move through what is blocking them or no longer serving them, so they can reclaim their self worth, take back control, feel empowered and live a life of emotional and financial freedom and I would love to help you too.

Choose Freedom Every Time!

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About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions and Stress around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Emotional & Financial Freedom’.

 

 

 

Apr 29

Transform Your Relationship With Money

 

People tend to lump all money issues together when in fact there’s more to money than meets the eye.

In fact there are five categories of money and when it comes to transforming your relationship with money it is invaluable to address each individual one.

Savings – Debt – Income – Income Goals and Toxic Money.

Now I want to suggest to you here that there is a Mind/Body/Money connection going on as well and not only are there 5 categories of money, but each of these has 3 aspects connected to it.

 

Each one of these categories comes with programmed beliefs, which is kind of like the habitual self talk that you say over and over to yourself every time you think about or deal with your money.

Then there is an emotion connected to this that literally runs through your nervous system and drives your fight or flight stress response. That’s why you may be finding it difficult to spend time working on your money.

It stands to reason really, because who wants to stop and count, understand or organize their money, when they are on the run from a tiger right.

Now I said three aspects and the third aspect believe it or not, is an actual trauma and this is connected to each of the five money categories.

Each and every one of these money categories represents different aspects of how comfortable you are around Money – How you deal with and manage your Money.

Let’s look at an example. Savings:

Now perhaps you are in a position where you earn really good money, yet when it comes to your savings you feel like you are always living paycheck to paycheck.

It’s pretty hard to feel safe and secure knowing you don’t have anything to protect you if the unexpected happens.

Thinking about your savings can bring up many different feelings and emotions and trigger all types of limiting beliefs, the emotions can be ones of loss, disappointment, sadness, even abandonment, never being able to feel safe and secure in your day to day life.

Savings or a lack there-of can trigger long past traumatic events around a loss, of someone, or something important in your life.

These past events can be responsible for your lack of savings today or your lack of financial security and support.

How you may be wondering?

Because these lack of savings today also sets off the same feelings of being abandoned, feeling unsupported, never feeling safe, afraid and loss.

Each of these Money categories comes with it’s own sets of feelings and beliefs and when they are examined closely they reveal a whole set of unconscious programming that has literally been programmed into you since childhood.

This post offers you just a small glimpse at the emotions/feelings that can be stuck in your body and connected to your Money.

This is what is referred to as the Mind/Body/Money connection.

These are the very emotions that stop you from ever wanting to or being able to make the changes that you would love to today.

They are the very emotions that keep you running from that Tiger in stress mode 24/7 when you think about your money.

Now when you think of the Law of Attraction and bringing in the money that you truly want to make your life more comfortable, more secure, do you think these emotions/feelings are serving you, or in fact keeping you in a place of feeling stuck and paralyzed, living in lack and fear.

How important do you suppose it would be for you to neutralize those?

Now while it is simple enough to set the steps and structures in place to put your savings in place, when you have any of these old UN-honored emotions/stories running unconsciously, in my experience they just want to be heard, so they can fade into the past where they belong.

At this stage it becomes super easy and exciting to put the steps and structures in place – To pay yourself first, build an impenetrable wall and safety net around you, your family and your money.

Live within your means, set up those perfect account structures, terminate all outstanding debt and as Dr Tony Pennells of #Mindshift.Money says,

 

“Drive your Freedom North like a home sick Angel.”

 

 

About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions and Stress around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Financial Freedom’.

Setting and Following the Financial Foundation Principles WILL take you towards Emotional and Financial Freedom – ‘The Choice is Yours’.

 

 

Sep 12

Fear is Friend not Foe

 

Who among us ever wants to admit they are full of fear?

 

 

 

 

 

I know I didn’t, in fact I spent many years growing the belief that nothing or nobody had the power to effect me, – little did I know, that underneath I had a simmering volcano that seemed to have a mind of it’s own.

I was FULL of perceived fear.

Fear of looking at or within myself, of seeing what these fears were about. A fear of what I would find, of who I truly was and fear of once I did, I wouldn’t like who I found.

Yet real free flowing fear I learned, is ‘Nothing’ to be afraid of.

Have you ever wondered ‘Why’ fear seems to possess so much power. Enough power to make so many cringe in it’s wake.

What if you could understand that it wasn’t fear at all, but a confused misinterpretation of our understanding, or lack thereof, when it comes to fear itself.

At many times in my life I have felt so uncomfortable in my own skin, full of anxiety, worry and panic, sometimes even terror.

My way of dealing with it back then was to fight, escape through my many colorful devices, or to run whenever those emotions were too intense or I felt like I was trapped.

The truth is, I wasn’t running as an exercise, “I was running of the inside,” a whole different outcome.

One of the very reasons why ‘fear’ is recognized as that fight or flight response.

It didn’t seem to matter who or what I was fighting, escaping or fleeing at the time, be it person situation, or the voice inside my own head.

 

 

Nothing changed for me until I could see that the only person I was escaping fighting and fleeing from, was myself.

All that changed one morning with a visualization where I seen myself coming to a stop.

I made myself turn around and see just how far I had run and where I had left myself back on the street.

 

 

It was a very profound experience and I poured my heart out as I realized and seen how far away I had left myself crouched down on that street.

I walked back to where I was, looked down upon myself, bent down and picked myself up to gently gather myself close into my own heart.

It felt challenging to draw myself in close as I seen for the first time ever how I had never wanted to be around myself and how I had been pushing myself away. Never in the past had I been able to feel love towards myself.

From that place, I promised I would never leave myself again no matter what.

Many of my former years I spent battling drugs and alcohol, broken love affairs and living life on the edge.

I also spent many years living as a solo mum where I learned to stand up for myself and my children, fear had no place, it was a sign of weakness and was rejected, dismissed and shunned.

I was an expert at covering up, moving on, hardening up and ignoring what I felt.walls

If anyone got in my way or put the screws on me, I could quickly send them on their way, without a backwards glance.

Emotions had little to no place in my life and when they did show up or seep out, they were quickly and effortlessly pushed away.

I had a favorite saying back then when told to harden up, “If I was any harder I would be a brick.” that was my way.

Yet..

Fear has the ability to come knocking rather loudly and help break through the toughest of cement.

What I have found through my own journey was, the more I ignored or pushed away my emotions – the stronger they would became.

What I am very grateful for learning is..

Fear was never my enemy – in fact it become one of my greatest friends.

It had become so strong in me because I needed it to get through and show me I could not live life without it.  I needed my fear to move forward AND to survive.

After all fear in it’s free flowing form is our intuition and our ability to take action.

When I stopped running from myself and made a commitment to stay with myself no matter what, I chose to listen to my fear instead of run and what I learned was, not only could fear teach me, but all of the other emotions I had been running from could also.

Each and every one of them had their particular gifts to impart and to share.

The penny finally dropped – Of course!

I AM an emotional mental physical spiritual and energetic being. How on earth could I be all that I am here to be, if I was pushing away and denying my emotional self.

It was the fear of myself that stopped me in my tracks and taught me this.

I no longer wanted to bury my head in the sand and ignore that. It was time to uncover and discover all in my life, about me and my life that I perceived I was terrified of, so I could then help others that struggled with their emotions to.

Free flowing fear is all about our action and intuition, it is our inner guide to healing our trauma’s, anxieties, terror and worries.

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When fear is able to flow freely it will navigate you safely through life’s biggest challenges, hazardous situations and troubled waters.

It is just about stopping long enough, getting quiet and being open to listening to yourself, away from criticism judgement and self blame.

When you are able to neutralize the effects your emotions have on you then you are able to take back control and be the Master of your own ship, as opposed to your emotions having control over you.

I found there were times in my life that I was literally stuck due to terror, rooted to the spot and whenever someone or something triggered that old terror, up she would come full noise, to halt me in my tracks once more.

Today I am able to use these types of situations as my guide to question, solve, create, learn or heal.

I can be in charge instead of my emotions being in charge of me.

Anxieties worry panic and terror, are the signals that our instincts are being impaired or overwhelmed.

They can get really loud when we continue to ignore, push away, reject, dissociate, or numb down what’s really pushing to be heard.

They can also show when we let our minds travel too far forward or we are caught up in an old stuck trauma or events from the past.

These emotions can feel very uncomfortable, they can stop you from ever moving forward towards your goals, yet they are not your ‘Fear.’

They are the ‘residue’ or the ‘what if’s,’ of our stories. They do want a voice, they want to be heard, honored or mopped up and let go.

The only way out is through them. However, this doesn’t mean you have to camp out there.

We need to honor and recognize our fear for what it truly is – our intuition and our action.driving-a-car

It comes to our aid when it is free flowing, it provides clarity, keeps us focused, agile, capable and ready for action or reaction.

Think of when you learned to drive your car, or perhaps taught someone else to drive.

How alert did you have to be. That, was your free flowing fear acting for you.

I can remember this time well as I taught 3 of my 4 children how to navigate the roads.

Free flowing fear allows you to focus, scan and respond effectively to any situation, especially when you are juggling many tasks.

So how do we make peace with this emotion we may never have wanted to feel.

  •  Start with being open to the possibility that fear is not your enemy that it in fact could be your best friend.
  •  Trust in yourself. There is so much more to you than you could possibly imagine. You will love who you are.
  •  Notice fear for what it truly is and welcome it in like you would a guest into your own house.
  •  When you notice any discomfort in your body, commit to sitting quietly, create a sacred space for yourself to be with yourself. Journal. Question the truth of what you are believing, keep asking ‘Why’ am I feeling this way. What is it about. Where did I learn this. How long have I been feeling this way. Who taught me this. Is it true?
  • Allow your stuck fear to move through you.

All emotions are like clouds in the sky they come and they go when allowed to flow freely. When you welcome them and learn from them they will gently flow through you bringing their many gifts to strengthen nurture support and relax you..

It takes honoring ALL of who you are to live a balanced fulfilled life.

Emotions never work on their own they always work in pairs or many.

Fear works closely with anger, our tears help to wash away residue and allow us to rejuvenate and relax.

There was a time in my life when I made a solid vow, to never ever allow anyone or anything to ever make me cry again.

When I made that vow I inadvertently gave up my ability to rejuvenate and relax.

There is another whole blog post in that.

It is my hope that this post will support and inspire you in making friends with your fear.

 

About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions and Stress around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Financial Freedom’.

Setting and Following the Financial Foundation Principles WILL take you towards Emotional and Financial Freedom – ‘The Choice is Yours’.

 

Aug 01

Patience is a Virtue

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Patience – the art of slowing down and being in the moment.

Whose got time for that….

Don’t you find that Patience is like that elusive elixir that people search for and would love to have, yet nowadays it seems even scarcer to find.

To understand and unlock the gifts of Patience lets spend a little time with it’s shadowy counterpart, Impatience – that funny enough no-one wants to own.

In this day and age of instant gratification we can obtain virtually anything and everything we desire on tick or credit, with the push of a button or the slide of a finger, we no longer need to save and we know longer need to wait.

When we can get things so readily and easily wouldn’t you expect to see people happy and content, yet look around, nothing could be further from the truth.

You don’t have to look far, we all know someone that demands when they want what they want right NOW.

Maybe even ourselves:)

Instant results equals instant pleasure, but how is that working for us.

Technology and this fast paced world – is this to the detriment of people losing their patience AND their health.

We know longer Have to wait for anything and if we do the adverse effects ripple out.impatience

We see angry people, abusive people, people snapping under pressure, retailers, hospitality workers being victim to verbal attack and abuse, horns blaring, people recklessly racing to the next set of green lights.

Lack of patience unfairly inflicted upon others.

Which one of us likes to be put on hold or stand in a que. Which one of us is calm patient and relaxed when others hold us up.

So, do we actually need to be patient any more?

There are in fact many benefits for possessing the art of patience especially when all around is speeding up.

Let’s explore what is stopping us from having this.

Think of the last time that you rung to speak to a government agency, the phone company, tax department and you were put on hold – not by a human, but by a machine.

Do you remember how that felt? Did you wait or hang up?

What about when you are running late and you have an appointment and every thing you can possibly think of seems to get in your way. The kids are on go slow, the animals are under your feet, you lose your shoe, your wallet.

And for goodness sake – Where are the car keys!

How is your temper?

The question is….Would you be feeling patient calm and relaxed, or irritated, frustrated, angry and full of rageannoyed.

These darker emotions are the reasons blocking you from experiencing more patience.

So where have we lost this art of patience and how do we get it back…

It may come as no surprise, patience was lost by the time you reached the tender age of 7 – 8 years old.

Now what if I told you that these emotions of frustration, irritation, anger and rage have literally been programmed into you from this early age and they well up whenever we get ourselves into a situation where there is a delay or we have to wait.

These are symptoms of what is buried underneath. In most cases this is a ‘Fear of missing out.’ Fear is the motivator behind the impatience cycle.

Impatience sees everything as a threat of time running out. It’s like a bull at a gate ready to react.

Threats are stress and our nervous system can be wired with this stress 24/7. This inability to recognize and slow down has detrimental effects on our health.

Impatience runs with the pressure of no time for time wasters and no time for delays and we can expect everyone and everything to move fast to keep up with our pace.

Think elderly, children and our furry friends.

Finding Patience in an inside job.

Patience is known to be the master of success and we each hold our own memories, our families thoughts judgements and beliefs.

 

But just think of how long a relationship takes to grow, a successful business, a green crop, a child. None of these comes with the push of a button a slide of your finger. They all take planning time and patience.

Here are just some of the benefits of growing patience:

* Reduced stress levels & increased health

* Better mental clarity & reaction times

* Increased compassion for yourself & others

* Emotional & Mental stability

The true essence of patience can only be mastered by slowing down and taking the time.

We can observe Patience in children and our animals too, when it comes to patience let them be your guide. They already have it mastered.legit-patience

Some tips to help.

* Become aware of how Impatience shows up in your life, non-judgementally.

* Question: What will happen if I don’t get everything done?

What are I racing for? What am I racing towards? Do I need to compete? WHY!

* Uncover: Where did I learn this? What am I really afraid of? Who taught me this? Remember

Feel what you felt. Honour these old hurts. Can I let this go now?

* Be the hero of your story now not the victim anymore.

* Change: Become aware of Impatience and choose a healthier response.

Patience is a skill, it is knowing that everything will work out the way it is meant to and it is telling yourself that everything is okay.

Don’t give up.

It takes time, it take patience to be patient.

About Susan Whelan

Susan has fought her way through Addictions to Alcohol, Drugs, Body and (Poverty) and has emerged through the other side as a certified Coach in Addiction, Nutrition, Yuan Gong (Qigong) Human Life Development & Yuan Ming Medicine, Tapping into Wealth and IS one of Australia’s first Financially Fit Bootcamp Coach’s with Mindshift.money.

Today Susan call’s on all of her life experiences and all of her technical skills and tools so she can help You Neutralize the uncomfortable emotions and Stress around money, Terminate the Limitation and Implement the Steps and Structures to once and for all ‘End’ your money stress forever while you create your life of ‘Financial Freedom’.

Setting and Following the Financial Foundation Principles WILL take you towards Emotional and Financial Freedom – ‘The Choice is Yours’.

 

 

 

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